Living an FLR Authentically Beyond the Bedroom
Like all relationship containers, there are many assumptions out there about what an FLR is and isn't. And when it came time for me to define my own, it has taken years to do so. The reason for this is that I was trying to take so many other people's versions - as well as what my partner had in mind - and adopt them as my own. But they DID NOT FIT. Three plus years into this dynamic, I am finally hitting my stride and finding my own voice and expression of what an FLR is to me, and I can finally say that my relationship actually is an FLR. I'd like to share my journey, learnings and missteps along the way. I'd also like to address the men who like to be in FLR dynamics, and the difficulty many have in letting go of control, and who try to top from the bottom as a way to maintain it.
There are many descriptors for me…mother, wife, sister, friend, lawyer, executive, coach, lover, slut, spiritualist, shaman-in-training…all equally true and beloved hats that I wear. Previously, all of these descriptors needed to stand alone, in silos, under the protection of lock and key so as to not mix and match. I spent DECADES compartmentalizing the different parts of myself and I woke up at age 40 exhausted, confused and completely out of alignment. Today, it is the very mixing of all of these parts of me that has caused MY alchemization.
I am no longer your run of the mill, bored professional and housewife. Through the process of my Sexualchemy, I now claim and celebrate the wholly integrated woman that has always been my birthright. I am all of those things, and more. And it is my greatest desire to share my story, and the stories of others I meet, who have gone through similar transformations.
If you, like me, are tired of the shame narrative around sex and pleasure, and you’re ready to be all facets of yourself, let’s create Sexualchemy together!