Darren Infinity (he/him)

Practical Chastity for People with Penises

“Lock me up and throw away the key!” So many of us fantasize about chastity, whether as an occasional spice or the main part of our relationships. In this class, we’ll talk about the gear options, the mental options, and chastity safety with people with penises. We’ll spend some time dispelling some myths and sharing how hot and fun this play can be.

Darren is a sexuality and relationship educator and coach based out of Toronto, Ontario. He loves to facilitate discussions about making our relationships richer and our play hotter, with a particular focus on power exchange relationships and play. He is a relationship coach and mental wellness advocate. In his classes, Darren focuses on providing participants practical tools to communicate about the kind of dynamics, play, and sex they want, focusing on collaborative consent and shared vulnerability

Website: https://www.learngrowrepeat.ca/

FetLife: https://fetlife.com/users/3121

Twitter: https://twitter.com/DarrenLearn

Miss Pearl (she/they)

Discovering, Centering, and Getting Your Desires Met as a Domme

Like all relationship containers, there are many assumptions out there about what an FLR is and isn't. And when it came time for me to define my own, it has taken years to do so. The reason for this is that I was trying to take so many other people's versions - as well as what my partner had in mind - and adopt them as my own. But they DID NOT FIT. Three plus years into this dynamic, I am finally hitting my stride and finding my own voice and expression of what an FLR is to me, and I can finally say that my relationship actually is an FLR. I'd like to share my journey, learnings and missteps along the way. I'd also like to address the men who like to be in FLR dynamics, and the difficulty many have in letting go of control, and who try to top from the bottom as a way to maintain it.

Miss Pearl is a lifestyle domme, writer, youtuber and sometimes community organizer who makes it her mission to make femdom more accessible for everyone. With ten years of blogging; running kink events and group; and an enormous catalog of writing that is as unique as it is spicy, she's excited to keep paying it forward for all the people who helped find herself.

Crystal Welch (she/her)

Financial Freedom to Ultimate Sexual Freedom

Lifelong supporter of female freedom. Retired financial advisor, now a writer/blogger/podcaster on consensual non-monogamy and the joy of cuckoldry. Married happily to my cuck husband for 8 years: and we agreed on this dynamic from first date on. My newest project is to combine my two areas of expertise: financial independence and the link to ultimate financial freedom for women to make personal and sexual choices on their own terms.

Website: https://www.crystalwelch.com

FetLife: https://fetlife.com/users/7289804

Twitter: https://twitter.com/crystalwelch99

Calendly: https://calendly.com/crystalwelchconsult

Ms Bossy Butterfly (she/her)

Mistress Mentoring Negotiation in CNC: YES!! You Have A Say!

MsBossyButterfly identifies as a Mistress and is an eclectic mix of very gentle kindness and wicked sadism. She is devoted to using rescued horses & dogs as service and therapy animals which are donated to those in need. MsButterfly’s project for 2021, in addition to increasing speaking events and engagements, is to open a kink friendly meditation space. She is married & lives with her hubby (Otter_Fyne) of 30 years as well as her primal partner and personal Guard, Avicenna. Her passions include horseback riding, Great Danes, cooking, nature & being a butterfly.

Miss Nookie (she/her)

Living the WIC (Women in Charge) Lifestyle Workshop!

Learn how orgasms work, how to give them, how to get them, and how to increase their intensity and frequency! What makes orgasms so fucking fabulous? We’ll talk about that, then we’ll discuss how to get the most of your body and your orgasms, including the many different kinds of orgasms you can have, and how to train yourself for multiple orgasms whether you are male or female. This class will blow your mind! Or, at least your wad.



NookieNotes, known by most as Nookie, grew up in the lifestyle and around people of every color and bent. Her primary fetishes are communication and behavior modification. She's a lifestyle dominant hedonist-cuckoldress-pimptress who is polyamorous and monoromantic. She is the founder of her kinky dating and sex/kink education site: https://datingkinky.com.

Website: https://datingkinky.com/

FetLife: https://fetlife.com/users/50648

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingkinkyofficial/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/DatingKinky

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/datingkinky

YouTube: https://youtube.com/c/DatingKinky

Áine (she/her)

Living an FLR Authentically Beyond the Bedroom

Like all relationship containers, there are many assumptions out there about what an FLR is and isn't. And when it came time for me to define my own, it has taken years to do so. The reason for this is that I was trying to take so many other people's versions - as well as what my partner had in mind - and adopt them as my own. But they DID NOT FIT. Three plus years into this dynamic, I am finally hitting my stride and finding my own voice and expression of what an FLR is to me, and I can finally say that my relationship actually is an FLR. I'd like to share my journey, learnings and missteps along the way. I'd also like to address the men who like to be in FLR dynamics, and the difficulty many have in letting go of control, and who try to top from the bottom as a way to maintain it.

There are many descriptors for me…mother, wife, sister, friend, lawyer, executive, coach, lover, slut, spiritualist, shaman-in-training…all equally true and beloved hats that I wear. Previously, all of these descriptors needed to stand alone, in silos, under the protection of lock and key so as to not mix and match. I spent DECADES compartmentalizing the different parts of myself and I woke up at age 40 exhausted, confused and completely out of alignment. Today, it is the very mixing of all of these parts of me that has caused MY alchemization.

I am no longer your run of the mill, bored professional and housewife. Through the process of my Sexualchemy, I now claim and celebrate the wholly integrated woman that has always been my birthright. I am all of those things, and more. And it is my greatest desire to share my story, and the stories of others I meet, who have gone through similar transformations.

If you, like me, are tired of the shame narrative around sex and pleasure, and you’re ready to be all facets of yourself, let’s create Sexualchemy together!

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/sexualchemypodcast/

d20domme (she/her)

Crossdressing & Feminization for Newbies

In this class we’ll explore the concept behind what society defines as a “real man” and how to feel comfortable expressing helping someone explore their feminine side. We’ll cover topics such as discussing it with a partner, general makeup tips and application, wig selection, where to shop and how to find others who share some gurly interests.



d20domme is a Human Behavioral Expert and Erotic Hypnotherapist with more than 15 years in the kinky community as a Lifestyles Female Dominant. She is unapologetically kinky and known as pint-height, poly(androus), plus-size, POC, 24/7 Femdom who knows what she wants and will use her craft in mindfuckery and persuasive viper tongue to get it. 

Her current fascinations are CBT, High Protocol, Energy Play, Onychophilia, Sissification & Genderfuckery, Introspective Immersive Role-play and Extreme Edge Play. Her main kink is getting her way as well as normalizing kinky lifestyles across the board. Thus she can often be found writing on her popular kinky living-memoir website “From Mundane To Mistress”, chatting away on podcasts, teaching classes, workshops, demos, or presenting locally in the Washington, DC area, California, New York, and across the pond in Europe.

Website: https://www.mundanetoms.com/

FetLife: https://fetlife.com/users/196900

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/d20domme

Key Barrett (he/him)

What Every Relationship Can Learn from FLRs!

Not every relationship should or can be Female-led, but every relationship can learn from FLRs!



Key Barrett is the pseudonym of a published author. What is not a pseudonym is the M.Sc. He has a Masters of Science in Anthropology. Key has studied sexual subcultures across to Europe and North America. He has legally investigated a diverse set of subcultures spanning from female sexual dynamism and aggression in medieval European texts to the bondage and submission clubs of New York to the transgender burlesque cultures of the Deep South before turning his attention to Female-Led Relationships and specifically what makes the good ones so strong.

He writes both non fiction and fiction with a female-leadership bent. All works are judgment-free and always between consenting adults.

Coralyn Jewel

When Dominants Go Wrong: What are the Warning Signs?

In this class, we will discuss the perception that women are in charge in the Lifestyle community and how that can possibly to women to take advantage of this in feeling they do not need to follow proper etiquette. Presenter Coralyn Jewel will cover examples of behavior she has seen and why the rules are the same across the board regardless of gender, as well as warning signs and why some woman actually deliberately behave in this manner.

I am Coralyn Jewel and I have put myself in the forefront of the public eye, in hopes that sharing my story will encourage others to take back control of their lives and embrace their sexuality. Through my books, articles, weekly podcasts, and my Sex-Positive seminars, I am on a mission to break the misconceptions and judgement of sex workers, adult performers, and alternative relationships.

My journey began as an emigrant from South Africa, with childhood dreams as an Olympic figure skating hopeful. An injury that devastated all hopes of pursuing my Olympic dream and 10 years later, a divorced mother of two, I was lost and confused with no direction or guidance. What began as innocent selling of used clothing items online, led to a full-blown career in the adult industry. From ice skating coach to exotic dancer, webcam model, content creator, director, talent manager, swing club owner, legal courtesan, and wedding planner and now an advocate for sex-positivity and acceptance. In 2020, I penned my international best-seller When the Ice Melts: The Story of Coralyn Jewel. I share my heartache, betrayal, and the obstacles I had to overcome to finally realize it was all necessary in order to understand my path and what I was destined for.

I am now a certified master’s sexologist, relationship and lifestyle coach, motivational speaker, podcast host of the sex-positive Hankie Pankie Podcast, blogger for various sex-positive online platforms, swing club owner, product developer and I am on a mission to help others find their true inner self. Through my articles and other teachings, I offers guidance and support encouraging freedom of expression, embracing sexuality and taking back control of your life. I have graced the covers and pages of AVN, Las Vegas Journal, ASN Lifestyle, Lifestylers Magazine, and NightMoves magazines. I have guested on numerous Podcasts and also presented at various Lifestyle and Adult Industry conventions. In 2021 I was nominated for ASN Lifestyle Magazine Awards for Best Lifestyle Adult Educator Website, Best Lifestyle & Adult Industry Erotic Writer, and Best Lifestyle Adult Educator. and in 2022 I was named by Pleazeme.com as one of the top 100 Sexperts. I love where I am in life right now and there is no better feeling than to see that I have helped someone in a positive way. I refuse to stop learning and I refuse to stop educating. Acceptance of sexuality will come in due time.

Website: https://coralynjewel.com/

FetLife: https://fetlife.com/users/816191

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/sweetbluecj

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coralynjewel

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100006949037388

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCa13b1J1p0Eg7ZIwydYWIpA

Onlyfans: https://onlyfans.com/coralynjewel

Mia Action (she/her)

Emotionally Charged Play

While ‘hard-skills’, such as impact play or bondage, are ‘emotionally charged’ activities in their own right, playing with the psyche comes with its own set of unique risks and rewards. This class is useful for anyone who is interested in playing with intense emotional states, exploring deeper bonds, or wants to understand and communicate their desires more effectively with their partners. In this participatory class, she will share what she has learned from studying the work of several experts in the field of human sexuality and behavioral psychology to deepen your understanding of your own psychosexual motivations. She will also discuss some “interviewing” strategies developed in her own work as a fetish provider that you can use to communicate intentions, establish what she calls an 'emotional risk profile,' and have more meaningful and fulfilling dynamics, while traversing the risks of emotionally-charged play with the caution and respect it deserves.

Mia Action is a professional Dominatrix, lifestyle sadomasochist and alternative sexuality consultant based in Philadelphia and South New Jersey. Mia has been formally involved in the alt sex community since 2017, but has been drawn to the margins of desire from a young age. While her class roster is varied, she has a particular predilection for discussing sadomasochism of all kinds, power exchange, and the psychology of BDSM. Mia is also passionate about educating the public on kink literacy and sex work.

Mistress Schari (she/her)

Cock AND Awe

An advanced course of my original Fellatio Fundamentals Workshop specifically designed for power exchange and lifestyle relationships. Whether it be cock worship or cock ownership; this workshop explores the many ways it can be included WITHOUT sacrificing the power exchange. This workshop will teach new techniques for both manual and oral stimulation. I also cover how these techniques can translate to and enhance strap-on play. And while you may be thinking, I am already good at this, or I've never had any complaints before, here's your chance to upgrade your skills. You upgrade your phone don't you? Why not upgrade your oral sex skills. Open to ALL genders, sexual orientations and lifestyles.

Mistress Schari is in the lifestyle (both BDSM & Swing Communities) as an educator, lifestyle consultant, and participant for the last 20+ years. Mistress Schari now hosts a monthly lifestyle radio show with her submissive catnip, "Mischief Matters Radio". Mistress Schari has been trained to lead her workshops from several field experts.

Her experience as a Professional Domme, sub, and sex-toy specialist combined with her training as an educator, life coach, and public speaker gives Mistress Schari unique lifestyle insights. These insights have enabled her to provide all genders and sexual orientations with a safe and comfortable environment to explore their fantasies, build confidence and learn new techniques to expand and enhance their relationships. Mistress Schari uses she/her pronouns. Publicity photos available.

Website: https://www.mischiefmatters.com/

FetLife: https://fetlife.com/users/4427560

Twitter: https://twitter.com/Mischiefmatters

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Mischief_matters/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mischiefmatters

Underground Sea (he/him)

Languages of D/s

Just as there are different ways people express and receive love, there are different ways people express and receive dominance and submission! Just as knowing your partner’s love languages are important for them to feel loved, knowing your partner’s D/s languages are important for what makes the feel their respective headspace. Learn the different D/s languages, and how to uncover which matter most to you and your partner. This concept of D/s languages is helpful for compatibility and for how to keep alive the D/s dynamic; thus, it will be helpful to those new to D/s, and those in existing D/s relationships. If time allows, we also discuss what creates a power imbalance in social relationships, and how the organic power imbalance has potential to undermine the D/s dynamic in a relationship.

Undergroundsea has attended kink events for 20+ years. He presents nationally to help people communicate and understand each other’s kink, especially submission. He serves on Advisory Board for DomCon BDSM weekend conventions.

Previously, he wrote a BDSM column for fearlesspress.com, represented BDSM on college campuses and mainstream forums, and chaired Austin TNG for 4 years. He splits time between Austin and DC. He performed with a DC kinky burlesque and comedy troupe. He helped keep Austin weird by arranging fetish nights where he wrote, performed in, and DJ’d music for fetish shows. BDSM influences his artistic expression in the form of fetish photography, DJing music, dance, writings, and kinky stand-up comedy.

Ms Bossy Butterfly

Fluidity in Mistress Role Identity

Ms. Bossy Butterfly identifies as a Mistress and is an eclectic mix of very gentle kindness and wicked sadism. She is devoted to using rescued horses & dogs as service and therapy animals which are donated to those in need.

Ms. Butterfly’s project for 2021, in addition to increasing speaking events and engagements, is to open a kink friendly meditation space. She is married & lives with her hubby of 30 years as well as her primal partner and personal Guard.

Her passions include horseback riding, Great Danes, cooking, nature & being a butterfly.

Website: https://mistressbutterfly.com/

FetLife: https://fetlife.com/users/3127816

Underground Sea (he/him)

Your PhD in Understanding Submission

Take away models and terminology that will help you understand, negotiate, and (for s-types) explain your brand of submission. Learn about (a) 6 types of masochism, (b) 5 need centers of submissives, (c) 3 core languages of D/s, (d) 9 motivation types of service submissives, and (e) 2 distinct types of humiliation play. This class brings together highlights of multiple classes to give a broader picture of how submissives are wired. It often prompts breakthrough discussions for attendees.

Undergroundsea has attended kink events for 20+ years. He presents nationally to help people communicate and understand each other’s kink, especially submission. He serves on Advisory Board for DomCon BDSM weekend conventions. Previously, he wrote a BDSM column for fearlesspress.com, represented BDSM on college campuses and mainstream forums, and chaired Austin TNG for 4 years. He splits time between Austin and DC. He performed with a DC kinky burlesque and comedy troupe. He helped keep Austin weird by arranging fetish nights where he wrote, performed in, and DJ’d music for fetish shows. BDSM influences his artistic expression in the form of fetish photography, DJing music, dance, writings, and kinky stand-up comedy.

Mistress Schari (she/her)

(Em)Powerful Pegging

Mistress Schari's newest class, all about pegging!

How to prepare for it, the equipment that's needed, proper positioning, techniques, tools, after-care etc... A little bit of history, I'll cover it from the professional point of view as well as simply a playful point of view.

How to approach it with your partner whether you want to ask for it or give it. How to handle pegging discomfort. Just all about pegging from A to Z.

Mistress Schari is in the lifestyle (both BDSM & Swing Communities) as an educator, lifestyle consultant, and participant for the last 20+ years. Mistress Schari now hosts a monthly lifestyle radio show with her submissive catnip, "Mischief Matters Radio". Mistress Schari has been trained to lead her workshops from several field experts.

Her experience as a Professional Domme, sub, and sex-toy specialist combined with her training as an educator, life coach, and public speaker gives Mistress Schari unique lifestyle insights. These insights have enabled her to provide all genders and sexual orientations with a safe and comfortable environment to explore their fantasies, build confidence and learn new techniques to expand and enhance their relationships. Mistress Schari uses she/her pronouns. Publicity photos available.

Website: https://www.mischiefmatters.com/

FetLife: https://fetlife.com/users/4427560

Twitter: https://twitter.com/Mischiefmatters

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Mischief_matters/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mischiefmatters

Kasey Storm (she/her)

Becoming the Queen You Were Meant To Be

So often women fall short of that which they are entitled to because society deems them insignificant compared to men. It’s been such an ongoing issue yet multitudes have questioned them accepted it as gospel. Referring to Biblical chapters and versus. Even in wedding vows. But it’s time we peel back those layers and eliminate the very thing that men have placed in front of us. We can no longer afford to remain silent and timid with no true voice. This is what I’d like to touch base on and discuss. Create an open line of communication that can help us empower each other on an ongoing basis not just the here and now.

I entered the Adult Industry in May 2012 I filmed for several companies. Reality Kings, Brazzers, Forbidden Fruits Films, Karups, Score, Devils Films and a few others I can’t honestly recall. In mid June of 2012 I became the head of American and Miami Mean Girls….. one of the largest FemDom online sites and it was there I perfected what soon became the most satisfying experiences of empowerment of ever experienced. I was beyond in love with this new superior lifestyle. A bit of backstory on myself….. A lot of ppl think I moved to Cali for my Significant Other/Life Partner The Original Tommy Gunn but that’s not actually the case.

I was brought to SoCal by Larry Flynt of Hustler as a Hired Gun. I had been working for Larry for a few years in his retail businesses training his mgrs when he found out what I was doing previously. Prior to Hustler I worked as a Hired Gun for various companies. For those of you who do not know what that is… You are hired to go into a company as an entry-level employee to assess all the other employees… Then you report back to corporate let them know who needs to go and who can stay along with why… You attend board meetings …..you have to give information and all its entirety with an explanation as to what when where and how to the board trustees… Than you’re present when people are let go so that if they have questions you’re there to explain why. I also owned a trucking company with my ex-husband for several years in the early 2000s… So I’ve always placed myself in a strong female position in the corporate world as well as the ent Industry. I do what I’m told can NOT be done. It’s just a matter of principal in my opinion. One of my absolute favorite quotes is: “Never underestimate women; there is a good reason the queen is the most powerful piece on the chessboard.” ~Matshona Dhliwayo And yes….. I play Chess and play it well. I was at the time of entering the Adult Industry also in the Lifestyle. I don’t really like the word Swinger. To say I entered into all of this sexual arena blindly would be inadequate at best. But the empowerment I felt was definitely liberating. To take charge and wheel men like a child’s toy just because I was a woman was beyond anything else I’d known. To take control of another human, In my case it’s always a male sub/slave, was invigorating. But I’m never ever sexual with a sub. I wouldn’t allow one to ever touch me sexually. I don’t see them as my equal in any way. Since I only deal with lifestyle subs it’s an easy thing to control. If I’m sexual with someone he must be my equal. Not beneath me yet never above me either. A true equal partner deserving of me and what I have to offer as a strong woman. I also have worked with domestic violence victims for over 25 years. Not on a professional level with a Psychology degree… But as someone who had been in the situation for many many many years and broke free. So I knew from the experience on how to help people and to try and give them their life back or at least be a part of that as opposed to someone who may be has never in their life even had someone saying it will work to them. I’m a firm believer and experience far outweighs anything you can read a book. My Life Partner and I are currently looking to buy property in Az and create a studio for content creators to film and do shoots in. Gearing expressly toward women and verified couples. We want to have the ability to offer a variety of different sets. All private so even the civilian content creator is comfortable coming and renting a place to shoot. The latest stats show there are many more civilian creators now than actual adult talent so it’s important they too can thrive and feel safe and a part of the community. As if that’s not enough, I’m an ordained Minister. I decided to do that when my mother was in hospice so I could be with her no matter how many other ppl were there. I also want to be able to do lifestyle weddings which most ministers will simply not reside over. If there’s anything more you’d like yo know please feel free to contact me anytime. Warmest Regards, Mz Kasey Storm

Salacious Scarlet (she/her)

A Discussion of Women Centric Nonmonogamy

Website: https://cuckoldressscarlet.com/

FetLife: https://fetlife.com/users/9196713

Twitter: https://twitter.com/CuckoldressS

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/salacious_scarlet/

Buy Me a Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/MissScarlet

Fit Miss

A Discussion of Women Centric Nonmonogamy

Hedonistic lifestyle dominant drawn to woman-led relationships

Shy (she/her)

A Discussion of Women Centric Nonmonogamy



A long term kinkster, who has been enjoying the journey of cuckold exploration in recent times. Naturally dominant both in the vanilla and BDSM worlds. I've been described as a nurturing Domme with a tough love approach.

LIFESTYLE EXPERIENCE I have been lucky enough to be a lead in the design and set up of an alternative lifestyle studio in Australia where I reside. Following that, I was involved in the management side where we hosted numerous events, workshops, as well as private and professional hire of the studio.

VANILLA LIFE In my spare time I enjoy walking and hiking, riding my bikes and motorbike, reading, entertaining, feeding people, camping, people watching, getting creative and generally taking opportunities to live life to its fullest.

FetLife: https://fetlife.com/users/4306634

d20domme

A Discussion of Women Centric Nonmonogamy

d20domme is a Human Behavioral Expert and Erotic Hypnotherapist with more than 15 years in the kinky community as a Lifestyles Female Dominant. She is unapologetically kinky and known as pint-height, poly(androus), plus-size, POC, 24/7 Femdom who knows what she wants and will use her craft in mindfuckery and persuasive viper tongue to get it.

Her current fascinations are CBT, High Protocol, Energy Play, Onychophilia, Sissification & Genderfuckery, Introspective Immersive Role-play and Extreme Edge Play. Her main kink is getting her way as well as normalizing kinky lifestyles across the board. Thus she can often be found writing on her popular kinky living-memoir website “From Mundane To Mistress”, chatting away on podcasts, teaching classes, workshops, demos, or presenting locally in the Washington, DC area, California, New York, and across the pond in Europe.

Website: https://www.mundanetoms.com/

FetLife: https://fetlife.com/users/196900

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/d20domme